On second thought, let me qualify that statement. I have been raised a Baptist, indoctrinated that homosexuality is a horrendous sin, and further informed that being gay is a choice, and one that every gay person makes individually.
I still believe that they were born that way.
Of late, homosexuality has been a hotly discussed topic, and one that brings violent reactions from two opposite views of the rainbow spectrum: that of gay supporters and that of Christians.
Gay supporters protest, “Love is love! How can you possibly deny us the right to love?”
Christians retaliate with, “Your love is twisted. How can you possibly define this perverted form of intimacy as true, committed love?”
FB wars rage, with both sides raining vitriolic slurs on the other. Expletives explode, and tempers flare. I’ve read posts by enraged gay supporters, spewing out the vilest names for Christians that I’ve ever encountered. Contrariwise, I’ve encountered hate-filled posts by Christians which label homosexuals as “fags”, “filth”, and “scum.”
Each side is consumed by one thought: “These haters have a choice. And by disagreeing with us, they are choosing incorrectly.”
I’ve read articles written by previously closeted homosexuals. Some are guilt-ridden, some are jubilant, some contain more questions than answers, but every single one claims that “I always knew I was different. I’m a boy that likes boys, I’m a girl that likes girls. I’ve known since I was four year old, I struggled with it in high school, I finally discovered my true self in college…”
I was born this way.
With all my heart, I believe that statement. But I’d like to add one caveat:
We were all born that way.
I was born with a tendency to envy, and a weakness for selfishness. A judgmental attitude often mars my perception, and I war with jealousy constantly. My tongue is prone to quick, snappy remarks, and though undeserving, my family is sometimes the recipients of a silent moodiness.
I was born that way.
But every day, I’m given the choice: will I act on these natural, flesh-driven desires? Or will I choose to be the person that God intended?
As Christians, I think it’s easy to overlook the fact that others have different sinful tendencies than ourselves. Alcoholics look down on child molesters, hypocrites chastise immodest dressers, homosexuals deride hate-mongers, but in the eyes of God, we are all sinners.
Gay individuals were “born that way,” with a sin nature and a lust for unnatural love. But they still have a choice whether to act on their sinful desires, a responsibility before God not to stay that way.
God never created homosexuals. Sin did. Free will did. We all have a choice.
What is yours’?