I am an avid people watcher. This skill can be taken to an art form, and those who take it to that advanced level are members of an exclusive group called the K.O.H.N.’s. (Keen Observers of Human Nature, for those of you who aren’t familiar). Basically, this just means one thing – we like to to sit and stare at people. Not in a creepy way, mind you. (Well. Not usually. We try to be subtle. Try.)
But people are so interesting, aren’t they?! The act of observing can almost be a form of self-awareness, I’ve found – as you understand human nature better, this can only help you understand your weird, complex self (although, ladies…this might be a dead-end road for us. Let’s just stick to understanding others). 😉
For me, people-watching can turn into a literal spectator sport. There’s comedy, tragedy, and ever so much drama wrapped up in the smallest expression. The other day, I saw a small child – apparently the long-lost King of the Entire Meuniverse – command his mother by simple facial cues – a quirked, sarcastic left eyebrow, and a quivering mouth, ready to squall at the slightest provocation.
“Oh, Danny, we can’t get that today. Mommy just thinks that you don’t need any more sugar…”
Sarcastic eyebrow lifts to hairline, and the expressive lips curl into a forboding position. An exploratory whimper is uttered.
“Oh, well, darling. If you really think we should get the oreos, fig newtons, fruit roll-ups, jellybeans, butterfingers, and licorice…”
“Oh, did mommy forget the pudding? Silly mommy.”
Mommy will not be getting a nap today.
“Good one, Mommy!” says no K.O.H.N ever.
Then there’s people that just warm your heart. The ones who have been married for 50 years, and still hold hands like they are sweethearts, just newly married and sooo infatuated with each other. The ones who stare deeply into their beloved’s eyes, while they say to you honestly, “We’ve been married for a long time, but I love this man, this woman, more now than I did when we first got married. And that’s saying something!” Sigh. That’s more romantic than any chick flick, better than any romance Twilight could ever dream of. This is love, tested and true, faithful, abiding…are you nodding off? Think this is boring love? To the contrary, I find that people who are faithful BY CHOICE are completely, passionately, interestingly, and lovingly consumed with each other.
In conversation with other K.O.H.N.’s, I find that everyone seems drawn to certain facial features before anything else. Some are fascinated with hair, some with noses. (Okay, okay. Not all K.O.H.N.’s are normal. Don’t judge.) Some notice hands first, or an expressive smile.
I find that when I watch people, I am first drawn to eyes. Eyes reveal true intentions, true feelings, and truly are “the windows to the soul”. I love the ability of eyes to share a flicker of amusement, or a mutual connection, all without utilizing any other facial expression.
So, tell me…what types of things do you notice first? C’mon, K.O.H.N.’s – don’t be shy. (No one will call you a creeper here). 😉